We all have our stories. And, I’m not talking about the one that explains what has happened to you so far in life. I’m talking about the stories we tell others – or, more importantly, we tell ourselves. This is how we narrate our lives on a daily basis. Would you say I have a plethora of stories? (That’s my nod to the Three Amigos!) You bet I do! We all do. These stories, no matter if they’re good or bad, happy or sad, positive or negative, productive or destructive, actually create our reality. They set our expectations. Guess what happens when we truly expect and believe something…it’s exactly what we get. Time and time again.
I’ll share an example of a story I’ve been telling myself for years. It’s what I tell others too. Here’s how it goes:
“I’m training for a half-marathon. I don’t have any expectations beyond finishing. I’m a horrible runner. I’m slow. And I hate running while I’m doing it. HATE it! It’s horrible. But I feel good after and I feel really accomplished.”
This is how I talk about running and my ability to run. For someone who tries not to be negative, I’m feeling like a hypocrite. I now realize that if I focus on my hate of running, my slowness, and my low expectations – that’s exactly what I’m going to experience each and every time I run. What I need to do is focus on that feeling I have after a run. And harness that excitement before and during my run.
So, I’m changing my story. It’s simple. From now on, I’ll say:
“I’m training for a half-marathon. I am going to beat the time of my last half marathon by at least 30 minutes. I LOVE TO RUN! It makes me feel amazing, healthy and accomplished. My running improves consistently. I am so proud of myself.” This will be my new narrative. My half-marathon is in October. I’ll let you know how I rock it.
I’m also really excited to share my thoughts with you via this blog. I’m surprised at how much I’m enjoying simply talking about this stuff. On Wednesday, I met a good friend for coffee. We’re in similar situations – we’ve both left our full-time jobs. And, we’re both taking some time to decide what to do next. She indicated, though, that she was feeling bored and starting to worry/panic about what will happen next. We talked about our work situations and why we left. We talked about our mutual love of books (love = addiction). I talked about this blog and some of my new perspectives on life. Then, before we parted ways, she gave me the best compliment. She told me that she was glad we got together to talk because she could feel my positive energy and that it was positively affecting her! Hearing that made me so incredibly happy. It’s not like I gave her any profound advice; I just shared my energy. That was all.
You might be digging my vibes. Or, you might think I’m just crazy and trying to get you to drink the kool aid. Either way, I highly recommend 3 books so you can see for yourself:
1) The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho – this one is fiction but so incredibly good. It was my introduction to the power of the universe. And my favorite book by far. I’d be happy to borrow you my copy, but you must write a note in the back about how you liked it.
2) You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero – she is feisty, fun and oh so inspiring. This book will motivate you to get off your ass and take control.
3) Thank & Grow Rich by Pam Grout – I just finished this one. It’s a game changer. It’s all about how important gratitude is. If nothing else, feeling thankful really makes you feel better overall. So just read it and try it. I finished it last night and had an incredible experience with birds this morning in my backyard. More on that in another post!
I have one more suggestion before I close this post. I draw so much energy and motivation from other people. A friend recently suggested listening to a podcast called “How I Built This” on NPR. It’s the stories of how people created and built businesses like Spanx, Southwest Airlines, Radio One, AirBnB, and so many more. The common denominator is that they wouldn’t allow themselves to fail. They had faith in themselves and their ideas. Pretty damn awesome.
Now it’s your turn. Tell me about a story that you’ve been telling and then tell me how you’re going to change it. You got this.